💔From Trauma to Transformation: A Journey After a Toxic Relationship !

Trauma doesn’t always come from war or accidents. Sometimes, it comes wrapped in something we once called love.

I was in a relationship that didn’t just break my heart—it shattered my self-esteem, my sense of identity, and my emotional safety. It wasn’t just toxic. It was abusive—emotionally, mentally, and even physically. It was controlling, isolating, manipulative. There was love bombing, guilt-tripping, and constant invalidation. And when it ended, the pain didn’t.

🌪The Aftermath: Symptoms I Didn’t Recognize at First

One month after the breakup, I started having flashbacks—random, uninvited memories that would hijack my peace. Nightmares haunted me. I’d wake up breathless, disoriented, terrified.

I thought I was healing, but every time I saw him—even accidentally in public—I froze. My hands would tremble. My heart raced. I’d sweat, panic, and feel like the world had stopped spinning. I wasn’t in danger anymore, yet my body didn’t know that.

That’s the cruel nature of trauma—it lingers. Even months later, I’d have dreams of being back in that same toxic loop. I'd wake up scared, frustrated, and confused. I didn’t want to go back to that life. But a part of me kept reliving it.

🧠When I Learned the Word: PTSD

I now know these weren’t “overreactions.” These were symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)—a condition that can absolutely follow emotional and physical abuse in relationships.

What I felt—flashbacks, panic, emotional numbness, fear of the abuser, nightmares—are all real and validated symptoms of trauma. But here’s the turning point: I refused to let my trauma define me. I chose healing.

🌱Rebuilding Me: One Layer at a Time

When I left that relationship, I realized how much of myself I had lost. My confidence. My dreams. My body image. My voice. Everything had taken a backseat.

So I started working on myself.

First, I reclaimed my body. The negative body image he left me with? I smashed it. I now feel beautiful in my skin. I love what I wear, how I speak, how I carry myself—even if I’m an introvert who sometimes fears judgment.

Then, I worked on my dreams. I reconnected with my passion—psychology. I began studying what I had lived through. I asked myself why I was feeling the way I did. I searched for answers. And what I found was clarity. I learned to take every bad experience and use it as a lesson. I’m now working to become a  psychologist—not just for myself, but to help others walk out of their pain, just like I did.

💬Why This Story Matters

Because trauma after a breakup is real. Because abuse doesn’t need bruises to leave scars. And because healing is possible. Today, I’m not only closer to my goals and my passion— I’m more emotionally present with my family, more honest with myself, and more in love with life. I’m inspired when juniors come to me saying they want to study psychology because of me. I feel responsible, powerful, and grounded.That toxic relationship gave me one thing—the push I needed to become the strongest version of myself. And for that… I won't forget it. But I grew from it.

🧘‍♀️Final Words from Turya Wellness:

If this story resonates with you—please know that your feelings are valid. You are not “too sensitive.” You are not “being dramatic.” If you're still shaking when you hear their name, still freezing at the sound of their voice—you are not broken. You're healing. And healing takes time, support, and most importantly—belief in yourself.

We at Turya Wellness are here with you.